Being a leader approved by God is different from being a leader put in a position by God. Sometimes, when God is training a spiritual leader, He will let us fall on our faces because we can see Him better from that position.
We sometimes need to take on challenges to understand properly “if the Lord does not build the house, the laborers work in vain” – including in any leadership transition and organizational change.
I had an eight-year head start since I was counting the quality of our marriage from the first day we met, which she didn’t even remember. Apparently, buried somewhere in my psyche, was the expectation that she hadn’t caught up yet. No wonder the poor woman couldn’t get a break.