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Finding a Critical Friend

“Leadership is so hard,” I said to myself. I was reading the whiteboard in the meeting room. The last group had obviously been discussing leadership traits. The list went on and on. As I studied the long list of seemingly impossible demands, I wondered which of these traits are necessary and which ones are extras. I realized that perhaps one of the most important traits of a leader was not even on the list…

It is the ability to come to grips with their own flaws. It is only through accepting their own limitations that leaders can depend on others. Leaders who understand their limitations will tend to look for the potential of those they work with.

We all need people who encourage us and affirm us. We all enjoy positive feedback. But more precious still are people who will be honest with us about where we are failing. Leaders need people they can trust to give them honest feedback, however uncomfortable. Without such people, leaders will not see their blind spots. They will lose their humility. Their growth will be stunted.

Whom do you trust to give you honest feedback?

How aware are you of your limitations?

What are you doing about it?

Elaine Vitikainen
Elaine Vitikainen
Elaine Vitikainen is a creative facilitator focusing on Organisational and Leadership Development, and Communication for Development based in Helsinki. Originally from the Philippines, Elaine has always been inspired to serve others. She started as a dentist volunteering among the mountain tribes before specialising in multilingual education and in leadership position in Cambodia with International Cooperation Cambodia. She moved to Laos with SIL International working across Asia facilitating change with local organisations. After 15 years in Asia, Elaine moved back to Finland in 2015 with her husband and two sons. She now works as a freelance consultant. Elaine believes passionately in the importance of integrating faith in professional life. You can find her at elainevitikainenconsultancy.com and spaceforgrace.net.

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