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Become Her Fan

Brag about your wife in public. Make a big deal about her. Wear a button with her picture on it. Public recognition tells everyone what you think – especially your wife. Everyone needs a fan; become your wife’s biggest supporter. And don’t do it quietly.

Not only is it great for your wife and for your marriage, it’s great for you personally. You hear what you say aloud in a way that’s different from just thinking it. Really. Speaking about your wife in a positive way in front of others will deepen a good habit of treating her well when you’re in private.

Also, not to be too shallow, there’s another reason to speak highly of her in public – the image I project of my wife to others becomes a two-sided billboard with a portrait of her on the front and me on the back. Ever known a guy who finds only his wife’s failings suitable for discussion? While he’s complaining or making fun of her, you can’t help but think this guy must be a royal loser! He may be trying to get a laugh or worse, sympathy for his plight, but really he just looks weak and disloyal. Speaking negatively about your wife to others shouts that you are a poor leader in your marriage.

Now consider the opposite scenario. Imagine there’s a new guy at work who has done nothing but sing his wife’s praises for the six months he’s been there. Every time he gets the chance, he says how great she is, or how smart, or how talented. When you finally get to meet her, it’ll be like meeting a celebrity! Really, if you convince people your wife is Wonder Woman, can they really help but think you’re Superman?

The Proverbs 31 Husband recognizes his wife’s accomplishments and broadcasts his admiration to the world. No one wonders what he thinks – he freely shares his opinion.

 

Jess MacCallum
Jess MacCallumhttp://www.jessmaccallum.com/
Jess MacCallum is a business owner, writer, leadership coach, and the often-challenged husband of a Proverbs 31 woman. Now married for over 29 years, Jess and Anne have three children—a married son 26, and daughters, 24 and 20. Jess is the President of Professional Printers (one of the largest privately-owned commercial printers in the Southeast); Anne leads worship at River City Chapel, Columbia, SC, enjoys trail-running, songwriting, and ministering overseas through music with “Proclaim! International”. Jess has a BA in art (magna cum laude) from the University of South Carolina (1986), where he spent four years training with the Navigators ministry. He now serves on the leadership team of his church, and has been involved in a variety of ministries for over 38 years, focusing primarily on men’s discipleship but including TESL (Japan), prison Bible studies, small groups, home churches, leadership development, and his favorite—nursery.

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